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Have you ever "broken up" with a close girlfriend? As we all know female relationships are just a complex as our romantic relationships. Our friends are human like us and thus are incredibly complex and contradictory. They sometimes let us down while they simultaneously lift us up. Just like with family we often excuse behavior by saying "you know how she is..."
Have you been there? done that? What types of straws break the camel's back and make friendshp irepairable. When is it time to cut the losses? Conversly what are strategies to working things out?
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I have a friend or should I say I think I had a friend who is toxic! She is younger than I am, so I always thought that she was just immature. But now as we get older, I realize that she is never going to grow up.
She was having some marriage problems and involved me in it so much that I gave her some sound advice. Nothing unsolicited or mean spirited. Just suggested counseling or taking a trip with her husband and definitely keeping their problems private as some people have the tendency to give bad advice. In response she bascially disrespected me. Brought up some past things that I had done that really had nothing to do with the situation at hand. Basically she got really nasty with me.
America, I know you don't know me yet but I am not a sheep, if some one shows me their claws, they are bound to get scratched back. I let her have it!!! And rightfully so.
All in all, she is not a good friend. Maybe we grew apart over the years. Maybe she is jealous of the things I have going on my life. Whatever it is. I will continue to keep my friends close and my enemies even closer!
ZiaPooh
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Welcome to the forum! You bring up an interesting topic, which has to do with what happens when friends solicit our advice as it relates to their romantic relationships.
Couples fight and make up and break up and make up. Sometimes as women we tend to look to each other for support during the rollercoaster times yet it puts our friends in an uncomfortable situation when the couple gets back together. Many of us have been in a situation where for example our friend swears that she is ending her relationship and talks about how much of a jerk her mate has been to her. Yet, two weeks later they are back together and you are left holding a bag as her man knows that she told you all of the "dirt" that he did.
So ladies, how do you react when your friends solicit your advice/support in relationship issues? Do you think it’s safer to say nothing or do you offer advice even if its negative about either the relationship or the relationship partner (i.e the man)? And if you have put your friend in the situation of either mediating your relationship drama or helping you move out or something along that line, do you stick up for your friend when your man starts being cold toward them because they were supporting you in your failed attempt at breaking up?
-kanasha-
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